Disclaimer: This post is a little more graphic than normal.
Today we met with our Fertility Specialist for the second time. Mark wasn't able to join me so I took a friend and we recorded the visit so Mark wouldn't be left out. We will not have another appointment with him until our egg retrieval day!! I can't believe it's about 6 weeks away!! Today I had my baseline blood work and genetics testing done. 9 tubes of blood and a couple of weeks later I will get me results. Mark will have his blood work done next week. If you are a family or friend and you aren't familiar with IVF, I'll give you a quick overview.
As always remember this is my take on things NOT a medical opinion. When I start my menstrual cycle in Feb I will begin on birth control for a month. I will also have a Sonohystogram-a special type of ultrasound. If everything comes back clear on the ultrasound when I start my period in March the IVF process will begin! I will be closely monitored while giving myself daily fertility injections. I will have two ultrasounds the first week and can do those with my local doctor who will report to my FS. Once I begin into the second week I will have ultrasounds done every other day and will be traveling to Houston for these so that my FS can monitor me more closely. When my follicles become a certain size I will go in the next day for egg retrieval. On egg retrieval day our eggs will be fertilized (with Mark's stuff) and monitored closely. After five days of our embryos growing we will go back to Houston and my FS will transfer no more than two embryos into my uterus. During this time we PRAY like crazy:). We will wait for two weeks and will take a pregnancy test to see if the baby or babies;) stuck. I make it sound like a simple process but IVF is very emotionally, physically and financially draining. Mark and I appreciate any prayers you are willing to lift up for us!!
We are so excited but I'm nervous at the same time. I know without a shadow of a doubt that this the path God wants us on! One of my favorite songs right now is Oceans by Hillsong. Here is the part that speaks to me the most.
Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders
Let me walk upon the waters
Wherever You would call me
Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander
And my faith will be made stronger
In the presence of my Savior
Infertitly is definitely taking me where my trust is without borders! My trust is in God for a successful IVF. If we had our choice we would never want to face stormy weather. We would want to stay where our feet could reach bottom! Therefore, we would never be challenged and grow in our faith. Infertility in itself it a great faith builder. My trust is in no one but God. I'm thankful that God gives people wisdom, gifts and talents for the medical breakthroughs that have come about even since I was diagnosed twelve years ago. No matter the outcome I know God will never leave me nor forsake me. It's up to me to bask in His presence and accept His peace when the waters rise!
Much Love~The Mosley's
Friday, January 31, 2014
Monday, January 27, 2014
More about us.........
Share with us a little about who you are and what you do
for a living?
Hi! My name is Cathy. My hubby is Mark. I am a Children’s Ministry Director at our local Church. I have a true heart and passion for children. I love getting to be a part of something that is bigger than myself. Mark is a QC Auditor for an Oilfield Pipe Plant. I don't really don't know what he does;)
Hi! My name is Cathy. My hubby is Mark. I am a Children’s Ministry Director at our local Church. I have a true heart and passion for children. I love getting to be a part of something that is bigger than myself. Mark is a QC Auditor for an Oilfield Pipe Plant. I don't really don't know what he does;)
When did you get married? Tell us a little about that day.
Mark and I married in 2001 at the Justice of the Peace. It was a simple day. We had a BBQ that night with our family. In 2011, on our 10th year Anniversary we decided to renew our vows. It was the most perfect day! We had the wedding I always dreamed of!
What do you like to do for fun?
Mark and I have a few things we really enjoy. We love to travel and we love football! We went to Cabo a few years and we LOVED it so much! We hope to get to go back again some day.
We have been TTC pretty much our entire marriage. We have been seeking medical help for the last year and a half.
What is your infertility diagnosis?
PCOS-The issues are mine:) Of course we are in this but my body is the one not working properly. I was diagnosed with PCOS in 2001. Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) is a common hormonal disorder among women of reproductive age.
What kind of fertility treatments have you endured?
3 IUI treatments with Femara. We are starting on the IVF journey this spring!
What has been the lowest point in your journey? How did you overcome the negative feelings?
If I said that I don't get down in the dumps I would be lying. In October Mark and I found out that our 2nd IUI had failed. For some reason I took this one the hardest. I was ready to quite. I was emotionally and physically drained. I was tired of taking medicine, of being on a schedule, of being sick, and I wanted a break. The Dr. had recommended 3 IUI's and that was our plan of action. Mark could see how everything was taking its toll on me and I made it very known that I was ready to give up. Mark reminded me that we had agreed on a plan and he wanted to continue. So we prayed that God would give us strength and He did!! We continued on with on 3rd IUI that was also unsuccessful. When it’s hardest to read your Bible or pray is the time you need it the most. Some days I had to rely on God to help me make it through the day. That's where God wants us. Relying on him and not trying to rely on our own strength.
3 IUI treatments with Femara. We are starting on the IVF journey this spring!
What has been the lowest point in your journey? How did you overcome the negative feelings?
If I said that I don't get down in the dumps I would be lying. In October Mark and I found out that our 2nd IUI had failed. For some reason I took this one the hardest. I was ready to quite. I was emotionally and physically drained. I was tired of taking medicine, of being on a schedule, of being sick, and I wanted a break. The Dr. had recommended 3 IUI's and that was our plan of action. Mark could see how everything was taking its toll on me and I made it very known that I was ready to give up. Mark reminded me that we had agreed on a plan and he wanted to continue. So we prayed that God would give us strength and He did!! We continued on with on 3rd IUI that was also unsuccessful. When it’s hardest to read your Bible or pray is the time you need it the most. Some days I had to rely on God to help me make it through the day. That's where God wants us. Relying on him and not trying to rely on our own strength.
Have you found peace with your infertility?
I think I have. Everyone has a story. I believe everyone should use their story for God’s glory and to encourage others.
I think I have. Everyone has a story. I believe everyone should use their story for God’s glory and to encourage others.
What advice would you give to a woman that is just beginning her infertility
journey?
I would tell them to have faith God has a plan. Get a support group of friend who you can be vulnerable with and won’t judge you. Find a Dr. who you are comfortable with. Follow your gut. If a treatment doesn't feel right don't do it.
My sweet hubby answered this one too for all the husbands. Be patient and understanding with your wife and her needs. Pray A LOT:) Be honest and vulnerable with each other. You are not alone. You are not the only couple experiencing this disappointment
I would tell them to have faith God has a plan. Get a support group of friend who you can be vulnerable with and won’t judge you. Find a Dr. who you are comfortable with. Follow your gut. If a treatment doesn't feel right don't do it.
My sweet hubby answered this one too for all the husbands. Be patient and understanding with your wife and her needs. Pray A LOT:) Be honest and vulnerable with each other. You are not alone. You are not the only couple experiencing this disappointment
Monday, January 6, 2014
Q & A Part 2
Q. What goes through your head when a family member or friend announces they are expecting?
I wouldn't be human if I said I never think "when me God", or"when will it be our turn?". I remember when we first started treatments last year and a friend had just found out she was expecting. We were in a group setting and she pulled me to the side, told me she was pregnant and was about to announce it to the group. She wanted me to know so that I wasn't blind sided. The way that situation was handled spoke volumes to me. My feelings were thought of. I felt loved and cared for. You never know what someone is going through. They could have just gotten the news that the treatment they spent thousands on was unsuccessful, they could have just had a miscarriage, or they could have just started their period which means they are not pregnant! I remember the day I made our consultation for our IVF, another pregnancy announcement was made. I ultimately was happy for this couple but I was emotional and scared for what our future held. I had a moment of selfishness and was a little angry with GOD. I didn't understand why this was happening to us. I now know that God is using us and our story for his glory!!Q. What kind of tests and all did you have to do be diagnosed?
I don't even know where to start. I have had numerous tests, ultrasounds and medicines. Be your own advocate. Research and don't be afraid to get a second opinion.Q. What determines whether or not you are IVF candidates.
A. Our OBGYN made a plan of action. After we did all that he could for us he referred us to a Fertility Specialist in Houston who did a series of tests. We left the decision up to the professional.
Q. How have you and Mark stayed positive and focused?
I would say our Church is the main reason! We have an amazing support system and attend a life giving Church!
Q & A Part 1
The reason I started this blog is to help others. Tonight I thought it would be wise to ask family and friends if they could ask me anything about infertility what would they ask! I got some awesome, thought poking questions. So here we go........
Remember this my opinion and my feelings, not medical advice and please no judging;)
A. The issues are mine:) Of course we are in this together but my body is the one not working properly. I was diagnosed with PCOS in 2001.Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) is a common hormonal disorder among women of reproductive age.
Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) is the most common female endocrine disorder, affecting approximately 5%-10% of all females. PCOS is a hormonal disorder that involves multiple organ systems within the body, and is believed to be fundamentally caused by insensitivity to the hormone insulin. It can be diagnosed in all phases of life - in girls as young as 8-9 years of age, up through post-menopause. Although PCOS is one of the leading causes of infertility, the reproductive aspects of the disorder are secondary. PCOS is not limited to women of reproductive age or potential.
Common symptoms of PCOS include:
http://www.pcosupport.org
A. This one is kinda funny.....once you start the process of fertility treatments you are expected to treat your body as if you are pregnant. So, no drinking, only certain medicines you can take, limit your caffeine and don't eat certain foods.
Mark and I were at a Christmas Party and was asked if we would like an alcoholic drink. We politely declined. It was a family member so I felt inclined to remind them that we are doing treatments and would pass. The whole party got to hear our conversation.
-Just be supportive
-Pray for us
-If we are sad, let us be sad
-Check on us periodically
-Treat us normal, we aren't broken
Marks A. Be helpful and supportive.
A. Our Faith, Each Other and You Guys!!! Also see the section "Staying Strong".
Marks A. Knowing that we aren't the only couple facing infertility. Remembering God is in control.
A.I think as women we like to feel needed and wanted. So of course having kids who are dependent on you makes us feel sufficient. Mark and I have really enjoyed our time alone getting to know each either and building a strong relationship. I find my identity in being a Godly women. If I do all that I can to fulfill the call God has put on my life I will feel complete.
A. When Mark and I started opening up about infertility we were asked "why not just adopt" as easy as "just adopt" sounds it's not that simple. Take a look at some facts.
There are two stages in the adoption process: pre-placement and post-placement. Placement is when the child enters your home, pre-placement describes the time before and post-placement the time after. There is a pre-placement waiting period for all adoptions. The time frame, like the cost, varies with the type of child being adopted. With a completed homestudy in hand, the wait is typically between two and seven years for a healthy infant.
Costs of adopting a healthy infant through a private agency or attorney in the United States range from several thousand dollars to $30,000 or more.
Marks A. NO!!!!!
Marks A: Be patient and understanding with your wife and her needs. Pray A LOT:) Be honest and vulnerable with each other. You are not alone. You are not the only couple experiencing this disappointment.
The random texts: I'm praying for guys, You are an inspiration, You are so strong, I'm so proud of you, and you are a blessing. These always speak to Mark and I. Some of the have been received on our darkest days when no one but God knows what's happening in our lives.
Mark A. The moment that stands out the most to me is the day of our 2nd IUI. It was a Sunday. Some of the men of our Church gathered around and prayed over me and for Cathy.
A. If I said that I don't get down in the dumps I would be lying. In October Mark and I found out that our 2nd IUI had failed. For some reason I took this one the hardest. I was ready to quite. I was emotionally and physically drained. I was tired of taking medicine, of being on a schedule, of being sick, and wanted a break. The Dr. had recommended 3 IUI's and that was our plan of action. Mark could see how everything was taking its toll on me and I made it very known that I was ready to give up. Mark reminded me that we had agreed on a plan and he wanted to continue. So we prayed that God would give us strength and He did!! We continued on with on 3rd IUI that was also unsuccessful. When its hardest to read your Bible or pray is the time you need it the most. Some days I had to rely on God to help me make it through the day. That's where God wants us. Relying on him and not trying to rely on our own strength.
Remember this my opinion and my feelings, not medical advice and please no judging;)
Q. Describe why your condition and/or Marks issues cause infertility.
A. The issues are mine:) Of course we are in this together but my body is the one not working properly. I was diagnosed with PCOS in 2001.Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) is a common hormonal disorder among women of reproductive age.
Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) is the most common female endocrine disorder, affecting approximately 5%-10% of all females. PCOS is a hormonal disorder that involves multiple organ systems within the body, and is believed to be fundamentally caused by insensitivity to the hormone insulin. It can be diagnosed in all phases of life - in girls as young as 8-9 years of age, up through post-menopause. Although PCOS is one of the leading causes of infertility, the reproductive aspects of the disorder are secondary. PCOS is not limited to women of reproductive age or potential.
Common symptoms of PCOS include:
- irregular or no menstrual periods (for women of reproductive age)
- irregular ovulation, with or without monthly bleeding
- acne
- excess hair growth on the face and body
- thinning scalp hair
- accumulation of unruptured follicles on the periphery of the ovaries (mislabeled as "cysts", often called polycystic ovaries)
http://www.pcosupport.org
Q. What can we as your family/friends do to help?
(Like not offer alcohol at Christmas party)A. This one is kinda funny.....once you start the process of fertility treatments you are expected to treat your body as if you are pregnant. So, no drinking, only certain medicines you can take, limit your caffeine and don't eat certain foods.
Mark and I were at a Christmas Party and was asked if we would like an alcoholic drink. We politely declined. It was a family member so I felt inclined to remind them that we are doing treatments and would pass. The whole party got to hear our conversation.
-Just be supportive
-Pray for us
-If we are sad, let us be sad
-Check on us periodically
-Treat us normal, we aren't broken
Marks A. Be helpful and supportive.
Q. What things have helped y'all most?
A. Our Faith, Each Other and You Guys!!! Also see the section "Staying Strong".
Marks A. Knowing that we aren't the only couple facing infertility. Remembering God is in control.
Q. How do you handle people who say "Cathy, I would just be lost if I couldn't have kids."
A.I think as women we like to feel needed and wanted. So of course having kids who are dependent on you makes us feel sufficient. Mark and I have really enjoyed our time alone getting to know each either and building a strong relationship. I find my identity in being a Godly women. If I do all that I can to fulfill the call God has put on my life I will feel complete.Q. Is adoption an option for you and Mark? With all the kids in the world why not just adopt?
A. When Mark and I started opening up about infertility we were asked "why not just adopt" as easy as "just adopt" sounds it's not that simple. Take a look at some facts.
There are two stages in the adoption process: pre-placement and post-placement. Placement is when the child enters your home, pre-placement describes the time before and post-placement the time after. There is a pre-placement waiting period for all adoptions. The time frame, like the cost, varies with the type of child being adopted. With a completed homestudy in hand, the wait is typically between two and seven years for a healthy infant.
Costs of adopting a healthy infant through a private agency or attorney in the United States range from several thousand dollars to $30,000 or more.
Q. Do you ever get comfortable with doctor visits? I know I cry every time my mom tells me I need to go to the doctor and get checked. Have you gotten comfortable yet?
A. Unfortunately I have! After 12 years of having PCOS and now starting treatments it becomes second nature to go in for an exam or for an ultrasound. The worst part for me is in the waiting room!Marks A. NO!!!!!
Q. If u met someone in the same situation as you what advice would u give or tell them to do different?
A. I would tell them to have faith God has a plan. Get a support group of friend who you can be vulnerable with and wont judge you. Find a Dr. who you are comfortable with. Follow your gut. If a treatment doesn't feel right don't do it.Marks A: Be patient and understanding with your wife and her needs. Pray A LOT:) Be honest and vulnerable with each other. You are not alone. You are not the only couple experiencing this disappointment.
Q. Through this whole journey, what is the most encouraging words someone has told you?
A. The one that stands out the most to me is: One of our sweet Moms came up to me one day at Church and said "Your story (of infertility) doesn't just speak to other women like you but to us Moms as well. It's a good reminder for us not to take our kids for granted but to love them".The random texts: I'm praying for guys, You are an inspiration, You are so strong, I'm so proud of you, and you are a blessing. These always speak to Mark and I. Some of the have been received on our darkest days when no one but God knows what's happening in our lives.
Mark A. The moment that stands out the most to me is the day of our 2nd IUI. It was a Sunday. Some of the men of our Church gathered around and prayed over me and for Cathy.
Q. After all of the investment of money and time, do u ever get down and frustrated and just completely want to give up? If so what keeps your faith up?
A. If I said that I don't get down in the dumps I would be lying. In October Mark and I found out that our 2nd IUI had failed. For some reason I took this one the hardest. I was ready to quite. I was emotionally and physically drained. I was tired of taking medicine, of being on a schedule, of being sick, and wanted a break. The Dr. had recommended 3 IUI's and that was our plan of action. Mark could see how everything was taking its toll on me and I made it very known that I was ready to give up. Mark reminded me that we had agreed on a plan and he wanted to continue. So we prayed that God would give us strength and He did!! We continued on with on 3rd IUI that was also unsuccessful. When its hardest to read your Bible or pray is the time you need it the most. Some days I had to rely on God to help me make it through the day. That's where God wants us. Relying on him and not trying to rely on our own strength.
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